There are some behaviors that smart people avoid because they are tempting and quite deceptive. Managing our emotions is very important as it gives us control over what to do and what not to do.
1. No one Should Limit Your Joy:
You should always be the master of your own happiness and never let anyone’s opinions or accomplishments take them away from you. And when it becomes unavoidable, take others opinion lightly because you are never as good or bad as they say you are.
2. They Won’t Forget:
Emotionally intelligent people are quick to forgive but that doesn’t mean they forget also. These people are not willing to be deterred by someone’s mistakes so they always let go and move on.
3. They Won’t Die In The Fight:
These people never have unchecked emotions and be severely damaged, fighting a losing battle. They will always choose their battles wisely and only stand their ground when the time is right.
4. They Won’t Prioritize Perfection:
Emotionally intelligent people will never set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn’t exist. Human beings, by default, are fallible. So when perfection is your goal you will be always left with a sense of failure which won’t let you enjoy what you have achieved.
5. They Won’t Live In The Past:
Emotionally intelligent people know that success lies in their ability to rise in the face of failure and you can never achieve this when you are living in your past. Because when you live in your past, your past becomes your present and prevent you from moving forward.
6. They Won’t Dwell On Problems:
Emotionally intelligent people won’t dwell on problems because they know that in order to enhance their performance, they should focus on the solutions. Because when we fixate on our problems that will only prolong negative emotions and stress and this will hinder our progress whereas focusing on the solutions will produce positive emotions that will enhance our progress.
7. They Won’t Hang Around Negative People:
Complainers have a tendency to go towards negativity, they wallow in their problems refusing to let go and move on. They will also hinder the progress of anyone who lends a sympathetic ear to them. To avoid getting drawn in with such people we have to set some limits and distance ourselves when necessary.
8. They Won’t Hold Grudges:
The researchers at the Emory University have carried out a study according to which holding on to stress contributes to high blood pressure and heart disease. Holding on to a grudge means holding on to stress and emotionally intelligent people know how to avoid this at all costs.
9. They Won’t Say Yes Until They Really Want To:
According to a research conducted by the University of Berkeley the more difficulty you have in saying no the more likely you are to experience stress, burn-out and depression. Saying no to a new commitment honors your existing commitment and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.